Monday Mornin’ Ministration


A quick word of encouragement this wonderfully wet winter Monday morning…

If you are a genuine believer, every single decision of importance that you will ever make will be opposed by somebody else – especially other Christians.

About twelve years ago when we left the abusive religious group we were part of, we had to re-inspect every element of our belief system.  In fact, we had to recognise that a ‘belief system’ is not what Jesus died to give us.  We have a relationship with Him, and a part of the Kingdom of God and the Body of Christ.  We are united with God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

But we had to look at alot of issues we had not previously considered because we had lived in a religious bubble for 15 years. The world was much bigger than we thought.

Did we believe the gifts of the Spirit, miracles, casting out demons, speaking in tongues etc are still active today or not?  Were we cessationists or continuists?  I shake my head as I read that sentence.  We are brothers and sisters.  Thats.  It.  Yet, such is the environment today, there is far more error in the Christian church than we ever thought possible.  Our little cult experience was the thin end of the wedge. We still had to understand the arguments that well meaning believers put forward and understand what scriptures actually taught, rather than what somebody told us they taught.  We had lived in a church which did not practice any kind of faith in God, it was all about faith in men and in erroneous religious traditions.  We had to learn to weigh the arguments and decide for ourselves, a scary thought. So, in the end, we settled in our hearts that yes, we believe the Holy Spirit is the same yesterday, today and forever, and He still heals, still delivers us from the enemy, still sets us free, still heals the brokenhearted!

Then there was the old ‘place of women in the church’ issue.  Did we believe it was OK for women to preach in the church or did we believe that women should ‘remain silent’. Having spent 15 years being told everything that went wrong anywhere was the fault of women, more specifically wives not ‘obeying their husbands or the elders’ and watching women’s marriages and families torn apart by controlling meddlers who claimed the right to separate what God had joined together, you can imagine we were not all for ‘submission to men’ by all christian women or anything like it.  I am not a complentarian, nor am I an egalitarian.  I am a woman, filled with the Spirit, who obeys what the Spirit tells me to do.  I don’t go to a church, so I don’t have to worry about offending somebodys religious sensibilities, if God wants me to preach the gospel to somebody I do, if God wants me to teach somebody something from the scriptures I do, and I don’t get hung up about labels.

But here’s the thing.  After 12 years of having to weigh options, pray through and make choices about what we believe, we have realised one very important thing.  Whichever position you take, you need to take it in faith and you need to cling to Jesus with all of your heart and resist the devil because he will oppose you. He will bring doubts, fears and worries about ‘what other people will think’ to you.  These thoughts, my friends, are the same thoughts which assail the unsaved.  Fear of men is universal.  It is NOT from God!

Whichever belief you hold, you will be attacked for it, especially on the internet.  If you are a Calvinist, you will hate Arminians. If you are a Baptist you will hate Pentecostals.  I am obviously making sweeping statements here to make a point.  I am against siding with any dead white theologian of any stripe, with the possible exception of Paul and the Apostles.  I hate the anger and the hostility and the abuse which is thrown around by some of those claiming to be ‘watchmen’ for the body of Christ. If you believed these men everyone who didn’t believe exactly what they believed would be going to hell. In my experience, they need to be ‘watching’ their own attitudes because these often tend to prove their immaturity and fleshly natures more than any amount of ‘discernment’ that they apparently have in exposing other people’s faulty theology.

Be assured my friends, you will be attacked and opposed for saying what you believe.  Satan is the accuser of the brethren, and he is having a field day out there.

Search your hearts, search the scriptures, spend huge amounts ot time in prayer and hold fast to your faith.  True brothers and sisters will stand together regardless of whether or not they believe the rapture will happen before or during or after the Tribulation. True lovers of Christ will love the brethren in word and deed and will take very great care not to offend another because of their own beliefs.  We no longer have issues over meat sacrificed to idols, but we are going to be held accountable for starting and/or contributing to feuds over whether or not a woman can teach Sunday school to boys over the age of 13 or not.

Come on, lets remember that Jesus died for us, not for our belief systems.  We are one with Him, and preparing ourselves as a Bride waiting for her Bridegroom!

Lets strap that armour on, and pray for one another earnestly and with love!

Anita Brady


Women’s Suffrage – Was It Worth It?

women voting

This has been and is going to be an interesting year politically – mainly abroad I fear rather than in our own backyard.  Here in Australia it will be more of the same lacklustre and highly predictable lies, damned lies and statistics.

On a related note we no longer have a television set.  Yippee!  We are not Luddites nor are we Amish, we are simply tired of having to look at twaddle and we would like our brains back!  So we are not following the Election media jedi mind numbing tricks.  We have some understanding of what is going on via the internet newsfeed which is far more distracting than the interminable and unhinged overkill of the media news outlets but is nonetheless far more tractable. It is all very underwhelming.

What is it to vote?  Some would say that in a democratic country it is the essence of people power.  I used to believe that, only because, as I said, my brain was numb.  Now I am more likely to say that voting is a little more than giving most people a sense of ‘having done their duty’. However,  most people are not really interested in what their  politicians are doing to their country on a day-to-day basis because if they did, they would riot, the people that is, not the politicians.

As a woman, I can’t help but wonder if being given the right to vote was really all that much of a big win.  From what I can ascertain, its the bankers,  industrialists and billionaires who run the world, start wars, destroy and create countries and generally act like a mob of three-year-olds with no supervision.

As Mayer Amschel Rothschild, the founder of the infamous Rothschild banking and power broking dynasty said “Give me control of a nation’s money and I care not who makes the laws’ (or who people vote for I would imagine). For the most part, the Rothschilds, who are one of the controllers of the World Bank, generally do both. If you are interested in just how huge their banking interests are, here is a link to a list of their international holdings. Please note the listing for Australia’s Federal Reserve Bank.

But get this, credited to Rothschild’s wife, Gutle Schnapper  in 1849 “If my sons did not want wars, there would be none”. At a time when women in Europe were campaigning to be allowed to vote, a right bravely fought from 1718 in Sweden right up until the early years of the 20th century in Australia, Gutle, mother of 19 children and matriarch to one of the most powerful families in the world, was breeding psychopaths and claiming that her family were the ones who got to decide who was in power and who was not.  Voting is not an issue to people such as this, they are the ones who control countries thankyou very much and they will be the ones who decide who gets to be the sock puppet du jour. Somebody tell the Rothschilds that mothers are supposed to tell their son’s to play nice with the neighbour kids, NOT to plot their demise!

While Britain has decided to leave the European Union and is getting a new Prime Minister and the U.S. is facing a change of government, Australia is set to avoid the polling booths until just before they close on Saturday July 2nd and to then wake up on Sunday July 3rd and realise that a familiar (face it they all are)  and not terribly attractive face is adorning the front covers of those newspaper thingies we used to read. And since it is School holidays, the rest of the week will be spent down on the snowfields of Victoria or on the beaches of Queensland.

Life goes on.

Yet, the world is going stark raving and this downward incline will continue until the Tribulation period begins. We have observed that the world now dictates that what used to be true and right is now no longer, the political lobby groups that represent nano-minorities have managed a hostile yet incredibly swift take over, children, families and marriages are under attack everywhere, being a Christian has now become a red flag to every raving hostile nutbag in the Empire, and there are now no longer any morals, rights, wrongs, immutables, untouchables and irrefutables.  Everything you thought you knew is wrong.

As for voting, don’t imagine for one little tiny second that the current Prime Minister and associated cabal are doing anything without consulting overseas interests and their subsidiaries.  Nor will a change of Prime Minister and associated cabal (or is that rabble?) make any difference.  What was going to happen to this country will happen anyway sooner or later, and the asinine propaganda that ‘your vote makes a difference’has no actual currency any more.  I don’t think anyone really believes that, especially in a country where voting is compulsory. And as I pointed out above, there are far too many obvious and well-documented proofs that the world is not run by fair-minded and reasonable men and women who love their countrymen and wish only their welfare.  We do not vote in goverments who actually represent their constituents and work for them.  We vote in professional actors who play parts in the Canberra or state equivalent seats of government.  Why do you think they televise question time?

I don’t want to end on a negative however.

I have read too many stories of people who have spent all their time and energy to get something changed.  The women who struggled to get votes for women quite often sacrificed their family’s welfare to do it.  Clearly the men should have been supporting them in it, but when that doesn’t happen, the family suffers.  Often women feel they are on their own and they simply have to do what they believe is the right thing.  Each human being must weigh the cost of their fight.

I think in the end, we make far more difference at a grass roots level.  Parliament is not a friendly environment, especially to women apparently.  When we start to speak up at a very basic level, at our children’s schools for example with this heinous ‘Safe Schools’ programme which is neither safe nor about schooling but is by the words of its authors about changing people’s understanding of gender rather than any kind of bullying.   They are trying to change society, bring in changes that most people don’t want.  Many people are beginning to  understand that they can stand up and make a difference.  I just don’t think that voting in a change is really the way to go.  By the time somebody becomes a politician they are already aligned to a party which has its own agendas, some stated, some not.  Human beings need to wake up to the forces which are working in society and have the courage to say no when it involves their own family members.  Governments DO NOT have the right to tell parents how to raise their own children, but the education department thinks it does.  We don’t therefore go to the education minister, we work on the schools, the individuals, the principals and the teachers and fellow parents we know and relate to each day.  This is far more effective and is going to effect a more thorough change than thinking that politics is going to make the difference.

As I said, the politicians in this country are owned by overseas interests.  It is the individual who is going to have the greatest influence on their own neighbourhood.  As people’s thinking changes, as they wake up and recognise how they have been duped and used, they will find others who are likewise seeing the forces behind all the changes that are occurring in society now.  And Christians, far from being demonized by the media, are the ones who are going to help others stand up and say ‘no’ to moral decline.  We have a moral compass that many lack by virtue of the fact that the Holy Spirit himself lives within us.  We also have God’s promise that if He is with us then who can stand against us? If we can’t stand up against the evil empire, like Daniel did, like Joseph did, like Moses did, like so many have in recent history, then the salt has lost its savour and the light has lost its shine!  God Forbid!

Just remember that as Christians we give to Caesar what is his due, but we are not of this world.  Our interests will never be upheld by the ‘elected’ party or in fact any ruling group since Satan is the ruler of this world.  God controls it all, we belong to Him, and He has promised to come back for us soon!  Our eyes are on our coming King, and NOT the earthly ones.  All we can do is pray that God’s will is done on earth, and ask the Holy Spirit to tell us what to put on our Ballot papers.  But as for expecting politicians to be looking after our own best interests, please do not let that propaganda reach your heart, it simply is not true.

Anita Brady





What God Has Been Doing Lately in Our House


A few weeks ago our family went through a time of fasting and cleansing. We haven’t posted much lately because some of us have been getting born again. God spoke to our family a few weeks ago and called a three day fast and during that time God did mighty work. The result of which are still ricocheting through our house and I would suggest through some other people’s houses and all.

Our family lived in a cult for 15 years from 1989 to 2004. During that time the faith we had was undermined and eventually destroyed. By the time we left the cult we couldn’t even open our bibles without experiencing severe emotional distress. All we heard was the condemning voices of the men who had run the cult. They had taken every critical verse of scripture and made it their own, turning everything into a mockery of Christ and his work on the Cross. It was an authoritarian, abusive, controlling and destroying cult. People’s lives, marriages and families were broken, and they are totally unrepentant. Even some ex-leaders who have left have never openly admitted and repented of their false gospels and the damage they did to thousands of people. So God has, for the past twelve years, been undoing the damage that was done to us slowly, painfully and piece by piece.

In the process of healing and changing we have had to address false doctrines which have snuck into our family, destructive habits – sin in actual fact – and other things which needed to change. Last weekend was kind of a culmination of that. All of us were affected in one way or another, and those we thought needed the help the least were the ones who had been, unbeknownst to us, needing it the most.
But here is the thing….

We didn’t go to some conference, convention or convocation. Yes, we need the body of Christ, but when we are addressing issues that arise in our private lives within our family, God is quite capable of dealing with it between the people who are involved and not some stranger who we think is more spiritual than we are.  We have been listening to a section of a .Podcast from the Grace Community Church in California wherein John Macarthur has admitted that he didn’t know when he gave his life to the Lord, that he never really knew when he was converted and he isn’t worried about that. This was up on Pastor John Coleman’s website, (see link) Coleman has been a strong critic of MacArthur for some years but not from personal gripe, simply from examining his actions, teaching and the testimonies of members of the Grace Community who have had to leave due to abuse.

One of the most high profile evangelical ministers with an impressive pedigree of five generations of preachers and ministers (and high ranking freemasons) who has edited his own bible and run a huge international organisation admits that he actually didn’t ever get converted, he just kind of always sort of knew he was a Christian. As the host of the audio tape (Pastor John Coleman) said,  everyone he knows and has asked knows exactly when and where they got saved and how it affected them. I agree.  I remember distinctly the second week of the May school holidays in 1977 in my second year of High School, late one night in the bunkhouse of a Scripture Union camp saying a prayer and asking Jesus to forgive me for my sins.  I didn’t have a huge understanding of what I was doing then it wasn’t until much later when I was baptised and baptised in the Holy Spirit that I realised what the Cross and Resurrection were all about. But it changed me, and I went home to my unsaved family and told them what had happened and faced rejection and abuse because of it.  I have never regretted that decision nor have I wavered from it. I knew when it happened, I might have only been 13 at the time, and 19 when it all made sense, but I knew when it happened.

John Macarthur, evangelical Super-Pastor of the Universe apparently doesn’t know and doesn’t care. But then as we discovered later he is a Calvinist and Calvinists believe in predestination. If you are saved its because God has chosen you and you have no free will to make that choice yourself. So, John Macarthur figures he doesn’t need to have made that choice, its clear he is saved, obviously, duh, he runs a mega-church right?

So John Macarthur needs to get saved too. And he doesn’t need somebody who is more spiritual than he is, all he needs is to have his ears opened to the gospel and his heart convicted by the Holy Spirit. He KNOWS what to do, he just didn’t think he ever needed to do that. I think we need to pray for him, and his poor church organisation which according to reports is taking over other people’s churches, abusing its congregants and generally behaving like a cult, false doctrines and all. Who knew? We shall certainly pray for the congregations to get saved as well.

So, when God does a work in your life or the lives of those closest to you, remember that it is because of prayer, it happens in His timing not yours, and it is because you are open to hear his voice, obey his voice and to repent where you need to repent. Nobody is excluded from this. Nobody. I don’t care how many bibles have your face on the front cover.


Dan’s Discourse – What is Grace?


What is Grace?

We use the term quite liberally, especially in sermons preached from the pulpit when talking about the ‘Grace of God’, but do we truly know what it actually means? According to the original Greek versions of Scripture, the term ‘grace’ generally tends to be translated as favour or good-will. This, in terms of the Father’s grace towards us, means that His favour towards us allowed us to receive His mercy and Salvation when we have done nothing to deserve it.

Another meaning of ‘grace’ is unmerited favour. This is fairly self-explanatory, but I believe that it fits very well with our lives as Christians, and the fact that we are able to be Christians at all. Unmerited favour means that God has looked upon us with unsurpassed kindness and compassion and given us His Son to die for us on the cross, despite the fact that we have done absolutely nothing to earn it, and are so undeserving of such staggering love it defies description. So many churches these days preach that we need to do certain things to add to Christ’s unmerited sacrifice, in order to please the Father and get into heaven. One of the biggest offenders in this area is the Catholic church, which tells the members of its congregation that they need to go to confessional, or pray a certain prayer a certain number of times in order to be ‘absolved’ of their sins, or even pray for those in ‘purgatory’, so that they can earn enough favour to enter heaven.

This is nothing but a lie. We, the human race are unworthy sinners, and nothing that we can do will ever make up for the fact that we cannot enter heaven on our own merit. I know it. You know it. Every single person on the entire planet knows it, despite all protestations to the contrary. This is why it is the unmerited, unsurpassed kindness and compassion of the Lord Jesus Christ and our Heavenly Father that allows us to even have a chance of standing before the Father on Judgment Day without being vaporised by His holy Presence. God’s grace, which he gives to the truly humble, is the epitome of unmerited favour upon those that have done and can do absolutely nothing to ever be worthy of such a gift.

7And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure. 8For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. 9And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

2 Corinthians 12:7-9 (KJV)

The above passage demonstrates another facet of the grace of God, namely that which refers to the blessing part of the definition. Paul was beset by the devil at a time where he was being given so many revelations of God’s Word through His Holy Spirit. The Lord allowed this thorn in Paul’s flesh, in order to show him that His grace, His unmerited blessing, was sufficient for him to see him through the trials that he faced. This is no more relevant to us today than it was back in the time of the nascent Church. Whenever we face strife, or trials, or anything that the evil one throws at us on a daily basis, we can look to this Scripture, and many others like it, and know that God’s grace, His favour and blessing, are there for us in order to bring us through the fire and make us all the stronger for it. All we need to do is look to our Father for all our needs; not just when we happen to face a particularly difficult time in our lives, but in everyday living as well.

Satan isn’t going to limit his attacks against the children of God to certain times when he thinks, “Oh, I think I’m going to cause this particular person an inordinate amount of strife and difficulty for this period of time, and then leave them alone afterwards”. No; Satan can and will come against us every single day, and will take obscene pleasure in watching us flounder. He wants us to fail; he wants us to get so caught up in looking at the storm and the waves and trying to fix things in our flesh so that he can have some semblance of victory. But look at Paul, look at David, look at any person in Scripture where they had to go through the trials and difficulties of their lives and you will see that when they put their trust in the Heavenly Father, His grace was sufficient for them every single time.

The grace of God is an amazing and powerful thing, and I’ve only just scratched the surface of what it actually means myself. But I cannot deny the power of His grace in my life, and in the lives of those around me. All you have to do is trust in the Lord, pray to Him, and His grace will fill you and see you through each and every day.

May the Lord bless you and keep you by His abundant grace!

Sowing the Spirit


For he that soweth unto his own flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth unto the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap eternal life. (Galatians 6:8 NASB)

What does it mean to sow to the flesh or sow to the Spirit? Think about this in the natural. When you sow seed whether that seed be for fruit, vegetables or grain, you take the seed of the plant you wish to grow, which is actually a part of the plant itself and put it in the ground so that it can reproduce itself.  Then you tend it carefully, watering, weeding and keeping the scavengers and pests away and miraculously it grows! So what is the seed of the flesh?  It is the flesh itself, whether that be the thoughts and imaginations of the flesh or the acts of the flesh.  Jesus made it clear that even desires of the heart can be sin, they don’t have to be acted upon (Matthew 5:28).  Anything that is of the flesh, however small or hidden will reproduce itself – and remember that we hide seeds in the ground before they flourish into plants. Flesh will beget flesh as much as the seed of a man planted in his wife will beget a human being.  Other fleshly seeds will also produce after their own kind.  The seed of gluttony will produce more flesh – fat!  The seed of anger will produce outbursts of wrath. The seed of lust will produce adultery or worse, rape or pornography.  Not only that but the seeds of flesh also produce strongholds, otherwise called addictions.  Such is the ugly yield of sin, it ensures its own survival by creating a need in the host to continue to sow the seed. It is never ending and the fruit of the flesh is listed in scripture. But these are only some of them, the list is practically endless.

19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. (Galatians 5:19-21 KJV)

So what about the Spirit.  Lets not think upon these ugly sinful seeds for too long, they will of themselves even produce depression and weakness if we consider them for too long.  This is also why Scripture tells us that ‘bad company corrupts good morals’.  If we are walking in the Spirit, allowing the Spirit to have His way in our lives, we will reap the things of the Spirit.  Sowing to the Spirit has the very same physical outcome as sowing to the flesh does. We produce marvelous, glorious fruit, and the final outcome is eternal life.  Praise God!  The fruit of the Spirit is also listed by Paul in Galatians 5; they are love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, gentleness, meekness and self control.  These fruit are the outworking of the seed of the Holy Spirit and remember that fruit itself contains seed. The fruit will bear more fruit after its own kind and against such there is no law. So instead of becoming a violent, ugly, wicked, venal and godless human being bound for destruction you will steadily become more Christlike so that there will be rivers of living water flowing from your midst.  The water speaks of the Holy Spirit and everything that is of the Spirit begets that of the Spirit.  It can be no other way.  The Spirit does NOT produce anything of the enemy or of the flesh. So next time you are concerned that something  you see in another human being does not seem to be Christlike, it very probably isn’t. The Spirit doesn’t produce discord, hate, fear, gossip, slander, arrogance or abuse no matter how often the person goes to church or lifts their hands to praise God.  Jesus told us we will know the false Christians by their fruit! (Matthew 7:16)

Seeds are so small and a very small amount of sin can affect our whole lives.  Sin causes us to become unclean, and Jesus likened sin to leaven, or yeast. (Galatians 5:9) I remember learning about yeast when I did Home Economics at High School. I remember the teacher showing us a rather waxy greyish unassuming and rather ugly substance which smelled a lot like raisins and looked like clay. You mixed the yeast with sugar so that it had something to feed off, then added water and then let it bubble so that the yeast activated.  Then you added it to the flour and mixed it together in a dough and allowed it to stand so that the yeast could work through the dough. When you came to knead the dough it was almost bubbly because the yeast had produced gases which were a result of the ‘live’ nature of the substance.  Sin is not a dead thing which just sits there.  It is alive, it grows, it works through our lives and it affects us wholly.  Only a tiny amount, a thought flitting through your mind, which then lingers and seems so innocent but so tantalising which then works on you.  It works on  your feelings, your mind and then finally your will and before you know it you have acted upon that little thought, that seed of the flesh and you have sinned. If you fail in one part of the law you have failed in the whole and if you live in the flesh you are under the law.  Any small infraction of the law becomes the weight of the guilt of transgressing the whole of the law. The whole is now affected, the whole of the law, the whole of your person, body soul and spirit.  A seed of the flesh will produce more of itself and remember whatever you sow multiplies exponentially.  One seed can produce a hundred of itself and each of those a hundred more, in the same way that a flea infestation will take over your house if you allow one flea to reproduce.

Only the blood of Jesus can cleanse us from the infestation of sin, from the fruit of our flesh.  But it is up to us to choose to sow the seed of the Spirit, not the seed of the flesh. When you partake of the fruit of the Spirit, that fruit takes root in you and begins to produce more of itself.  Remember you are merely the ground in which the seed is being produced, the work of the Spirit in us is of Himself, not of us. The seed of the Spirit is sown in good ground, the new nature, and produces more of Himself and we grow more Christlike.  It is the greatest and most wonderful miracle of all of God’s miracles, and He does this because of His own greatest sacrifice, His own Son who said of himself..

24 Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit. 25 He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal

In these verses He was exhorting his followers to die to their flesh and allow their flesh to be crucified as He himself did so that they might produce much seed in the Spirit.  This is a principle in God which has almost been lost in this day and age.  So few men preach about the need to walk in the Spirit and few understand that unless they do they will reap of the flesh increasingly and reap more of it than they would have imagined.  We are so good at putting religious guises upon our works that many immature Christians are not able to recognise that which is sown to the flesh and that which is sown to the Spirit.

I myself am only beginning to understand this principle.  What does it mean to sow to the Spirit?  Begin the day with worship and prayer and you will find yourself wanting to focus more and more on the Spirit.  You will experience peace and joy and grow in the love of God.  Throughout the day you will want to remind yourself of that peace and will look for opportunities to take a few minutes here and there to pray and worship God. Unwholesome thoughts of fear, anxiety, anger and pride will be held at bay.  You will be focusing entirely on Jesus, the Father and the Holy Spirit, you will be remembering Scripture more and more, singing songs of praise and encouragement which the Holy Spirit will bring to your remembrance as your mind is renewed and your heart cleansed you will find yourself seeing the whole world in a new light.  THIS is reaping the Spirit!

As Romans 12:1-2 tells us, if we present our bodies as a living sacrifice, that is, we die to the flesh and put on Christ instead, sowing to the Spirit and not to the flesh and if we do not conform to the world, in other words if we make our declaration of allegiance to Jesus Christ and not the ruler of this world, we will be transformed. Our minds will be renewed and when our minds are renewed we will be able to know the will of God towards us.  It is an amazing process really.  We sow to the Spirit, we work with the Spirit, we allow the seed of the Spirit to take root in us, we tend it carefully pouring on the water of the Spirit to nourish the work of the Spirit so that our hearts and mind might be renewed as the Spirit is allowed to take over our lives in the same way that a field of grain is allowed to sprout and grow tall.  Then all who pass by will see the field of grain and be able to partake of the nourishment of the bread of life.

But I must warn you.  When the Holy Spirit begins to take root in your life and bears fruit, you will be changed. You will begin to even notice a change in your ‘inward parts’. It is both exciting and freeing but it is also a challenge to your flesh which will not just lie down and die, it will want to raise itself up again and fight what is going on, this new life which is being birthed and nurtured. Expect to have to fight with your old desires, the old thoughts and the old behaviours because they will want to have dominance again, and of course satan and his cronies will be there to aid the flesh every step of the way.  The flesh that was sown in our old natures will still have consequences.  The old crop will still be there waving in the breeze along with its seed.  It must be allowed to wither so that there is no more ability to sprout into more plants. Stand strong, fight the good fight, endure to the end and you will have the crown of life. Not only are we farmers, we are soldiers. We must have one hand upon the Sword of the Spirit as we work in the field and nurture the fruit. We must be prepared to chase away the scavengers, the crows which want to come and destroy the crop.

May the Lord of the harvest find a white field full of the fruit of the Spirit when He examines the works of your life!







Putting Away Childish Things


Recently I came across an article which examined the life of Edith Nesbit. Edith Nesbit was a nineteenth century English writer who was also one of the founding members, along with her husband, of the English Fabian Socialist Society. Apparently, she was also a member of the Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn, if you go to their website you will see her name listed proudly in their members list. The most famous member of this order was Alistair Crowley, evil influence on so much popular culture, everyone from the Beatles to L. Ron Hubbard, the author of Scientology who thought of himself as Crowley’s successor to Anton Le Vey founder of the Church of Satan. Apparently, this group do not believe themselves to be strictly satan worshippers, as their beliefs are a mixture of a number of different philosophies and religions; Theosophy, Kabbalah and others. However, they do have a very strong focus on the practice of magic and the occult and have been quoted as being the influence for the wiccan religion in the modern era.

Edith Nesbit is a well-known and well-loved author; children of many generations have read her books, myself included. Two of my favourites, both made into movies and TV series, were ‘The Railway Children’ and ‘Five Children and It’. Nesbit wrote a great many other books which I had read at one time or another which introduced the reader to characters and stories about magic, myths and ancient civilizations.  One story in particular ‘The Amulet’ involves time travel and goes to a future Britain in which H.G. Wells is venerated.  Wells was also a member of the Fabian Socialist Society. At the time that I read these stories, they were only fairy tales to me and I thought nothing much more of them other than, as all children would, to think of how wonderful it would be to have a fairy at the bottom of the garden who would grant you a wish a day or travelling on a magic carpet. I think most of us have considered the excitement of having all your wishes come true. It is the desire upon which all of Satan’s servants and Satan himself have built their deception. Even today you hear of movie or rock stars making what appear to be ironic statements about having ‘sold their soul to the devil’ for fame and fortune. Except that to them it is very real as a lot of them are into the occult as well.

Everyone from Walt Disney to just about every advertising executive in existence have used this very human yearning to be free from pain and difficulty in order to sell their agendas. Edith Nesbit was a follower of occult practices which also promised to bring her fulfillment. The Fabian Socialists have had an agenda for a one world order, albeit a socialist one, since their inception. It is easy to see how fairy tales and the hunt for answers from outside human knowledge can be informed by a yearning for a better world. Unfortunately, Satan’s agenda is also to rule the world in order to bring everything tumbling down into chaos and have every creature worship himself. He doesn’t care how he deceives human beings, whether they believe they are worshiping nature as wiccans or pagans or businessmen who worship money or politicians who worship power or rock stars who worship fame or silly human beings who worship their pastors and end up falling into error that way. Satan is happy to use whomever to bring about his eternal plan for world domination and the destruction of Christians whom he hates with a vengeance.

It has been a theme in our lives lately that God has been showing us the truth behind all of our fondest memories of childhood. It seems that no stone has been left un-turned. When we turn to God with our whole hearts and ask Him to accept us as His own, he will take us at our words and come and crush every deception, tear down every imagination and destroy every idol we have worshiped, often unbeknownst to us, from our past and in our present. Discovering that one of my favourite childhood authors is a witch was really not that terrible, but it was a shock. What it really did was open my eyes further to the reality behind the veil of the fantasy that my childhood was a place of innocence and sunshine. In fact, it was a place of deception and darkness.

The Bible makes it clear that all things that are in darkness will be brought to the light (Mark 4:22). When God takes us on the journey down the narrow path, His word becomes a light to our feet, but not just as we read the Bible. His indwelling word, His Holy Spirit, make it abundantly clear when something is not acceptable to God. While God does not hold us accountable as small children for our actions, especially for those things which have been introduced to us by our parents, as we grow, he does show us that we have a choice. Even as a teenager I was reading Edith Nesbit without thinking, and I became a Christian at the age of 13. Nobody I spoke to ever warned me against fairy tales or books which contained Greek mythology mixed with so called ‘Christian’ parables such as CS Lewis’ Narnia books. I read JRR Tolkien’s books as well although I skipped great swathes of the writing because I found it boring. I was never into the mythology behind the books as people are nowadays with the advent of the films and the internet and the manifestation of a ‘Tolkien culture’. Apparently you can even learn the fictional Tolkien ‘Elvish language’ at universities now. (  The ‘runes’ which are actually an occult alphabet used by witches and Satanists did not originate with Tolkien however. So what you are actually doing by entering these classes is entering a portal to the occult. Many students, and teachers I fear, would have no problem with that since they are often atheists as well. So much for higher learning.

So while I was not aware of the inherent dangers in reading books written by occultists or of the errors of mixing profane with holy, introducing children to the ideas of magic and fairy tales, I was still being led down a dark road which opened doors which I would otherwise not have encountered. It is useless to say that these authors knew the stories were only fantasy because I don’t believe this to be the case. Edith Nesbit practiced witchcraft. To her at least, the supernatural was not make believe. Why else would she be part of a group which involved itself in so much ceremony to worship demonic spirits and invite them into their lives if she thought it all to be imaginary. Likewise, Clive Stapes Lewis was a great lover of the Greek myths, the worship of Norse and Greek gods, and set much store by them. Towards the end of his life when visiting a Greek temple, he is quoted as saying….” I had some ado to prevent Joy and myself from relapsing into Paganism in Attica! At Daphni it was hard not to pray to Apollo the Healer. But somehow one didn’t feel it would have been very wrong — would have only been addressing Christ sub specie Apollonius. We witnessed a beautiful Christian village ceremony in Rhodes and hardly felt a discrepancy.” (Roger Lancelyn Green, C.S. Lewis: A Biography, Revised Edition (Orlando, FL: Harcourt Inc., 1974), page 30, 274) Emphasis mine.

Again, you can hardly say that the Narnia series was merely an allegory or fable when the author was a self-confessed former pagan who apparently even in 1960 when this quote was made was still ambivalent about his faith. Here is a man whose understanding of God himself was completely flawed, and he was not, as many profess, a great Christian theologian. Anyone with any genuine grasp of scripture could not possibly call Lewis’ writings theology. To be sure he wrote about those things which interested him, but he was interested in a great many things, the occult held a very great power over him even from his childhood. His matron at boarding school was a theosophist, theosophy being the major influence on the Golden Dawn group and had a huge influence on him as a source of comfort and encouragement and Lewis himself has confessed in ‘Surprised by Joy’ that feelings are everything. Here was a man who was focused completely on the fleshly carnal nature and had little understanding of the Holy or Consecrated life. I fear that many Christians, myself included have been seduced into practicing idol worship in the guise of ‘fairy tales’ instead of worshipping God.

“As I urged you upon my departure for Macedonia, remain on at Ephesus so that you may instruct certain men not to teach strange doctrines, 4nor to pay attention to myths and endless genealogies, which give rise to mere speculation rather than furthering the administration of God which is by faith. 5But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.…” (1 Timothy 1)

Like Lewis, many Christians are focused on what feels good. But the motto of the church of satan is ‘do what thou wilt is the whole of the law’. La Vey has obviously tried to create a biblical feel to his writings using the old English ‘thou’ and ‘wilt’ as thou this was ancient writ. The ideas behind it certainly are because satan is as old as creation and his agenda has not changed. He questions God’s word and tries to get Christians to worship himself instead of the one who alone is worthy of our worship. I think it was Carol Matriciana, a Christian speaker and former follower of New Age and Hindu teachings who said that Satan promised Eve that she would ‘become like God’ when she was already perfect and in a perfect relationship with God. You couldn’t get any better than that but satan managed to convince our great ancestor that she could achieve something God could never give her, and he was right of course. By obeying satan, Eve sinned and was wrested away from that perfect relationship with God and her husband, she became that which all pagans and seekers after occult knowledge wish to achieve, she discovered rebellion.


In fact, satan does not offer us anything but himself and he is an altogether dark and bottomless abyss of pain and suffering. No human being was created to be in relationship with evil, we were created to be in relationship with Holiness and Goodness and Perfection and Light. God himself of course, through his Son Jesus Christ and through Christ’s cleansing blood and His sacrifice on the cross, wants to be once again our one source of life and healing from this ugly sinful existence. Yet so many Christians fall prey to the lies which satan peddles in the form of ‘fairy tales’ or the imaginary which some might call fiction. I used to be a great fan of fiction, but now even Christian fiction tends to produce more irritation than edification. At its core is emotional responses to pretend characters and their stories. You are responding to a person from somebody else’s imagination, birthed from the womb of their own minds. How much more uplifting to read the Word of God, or to listen to genuine testimonies from real people who have experienced the life of God or the salvation of God or the healing of God or something real from God rather than something unreal from another human being. The ‘willing suspension of disbelief’ is what drives all fiction, but so called ‘Christian fiction’ should not exist at all.

I know this sounds harsh and some may question why I have such a beef about something which apparently only gives people a ‘good read’. I am opposed to anything which originates in the flesh or the imagination of human beings. I am not interested in fairy tales either in the pulpit or in books or on the internet. We pay for the privilege of being able to read stories and we forget that the whole time we are indulging in the mire of somebody else’s imaginary world. This is not the real world, this is like stepping into somebody else’s deception and seeing what they are seeing. You are opening yourself up to another influence, but is it godly? Most of the time, no, it is not.

Oral history is one thing, myths and stories are something else again. Passing down the Word of God through the Rabbis and the family members was important for those who could not read. Passing down stories which are entirely fictional with no basis in reality might as well be the same as passing a marijuana cigarette. Let’s all get high on this story which will cause us to be happy and sad in turns and in the end we will put the book down with a huge sigh because we have been on a roller coaster of emotion and lived somebody else’s life for a few hours. What is the difference between this and a drug induced ‘trip’ in which you step outside of your own reality to embrace the effects of chemicals in your brain.

Look at it this way. Many children’s authors of the past have been found to be borderline pedophiles (Lewis Carroll) or malignant narcissists (Enid Blyton) or as I have mentioned witches (Edith Nesbit) or pagan idol worshippers pretending to be Christians (CSLewis). You often don’t know who these people are when you read their stories. I certainly had no knowledge of Carroll, Lewis or Nesbit when I read their stories. Was I entertained? For sure. Was I ushered into an existence which both frightened and excited me? Yup! Was I being covertly introduced to the occult? Absolutely! We think that reading is harmless because it is all ‘in our imagination and it isn’t real’. Wrong! Truths are bound up in myths because the whole unvarnished truth would freak most people out. Lewis Carroll’s books were disturbing and not terribly enlightening to me as a child. He was a very strange character with an obsession with photographing naked children. Today he would probably be on a psychiatrists couch if not in jail with his computer confiscated. Why would I want to be inside his head? The same could be said for pagan worshippers or witches. These are not God’s people, they are confused and they worship somebody I would not wish to meet in a million years, yet I meet him daily through the foolishness and darkness of human understanding. Fiction is not harmless, it is the result of a human being’s thoughts many of which are placed there by demonic forces. NEVER forget that! I would go so far as to include Paul Young’s ‘The Shack’ in this denunciation of ‘fiction’. Young would like us to believe that God can be portrayed as two women and a man rather than a Holy Trinity of one man who is also God and Two disembodied Spirits. God is the only one who is able to define himself but I find now on the internet that there are discussions about God’s ‘gender’ as a result of these ridiculous Christian fiction books which want to introduce controversial subjects in order to engender debate!

“I never thought everyone was going to love this book. Art is incredibly subjective as to whether a story and style are appealing. I have no problem with a spirited discussion of some of the theological issues raised in The Shack. The books I love most are the ones that challenge my theological constructs and invite a robust discussion among friends, whether I agree with everything in them or not in the end,. That is especially true of a work of fiction where people will bring their own interpretations of the same events or conversations.”

Jacobsen states that the books he loves the most are the ones which challenge his theological constructs. As the co-editor and publisher of ‘The Shack’ he says in the first paragraph of this article that he ‘knew that The Shack was edgy enough to prompt some significant backlash, which is why so many publishing companies didn’t want to take it on at the beginning’. Yet this books is fiction. Now we have fictional books with fictional ideas about God and who he is masquerading as ‘just a good read’ which also purport to be reconstructing our theology as believers. And so many believers have claimed that this book has changed their lives. We live in perilous times.

Current trends in young people’s literature now bring the occult out of the closet. We are looking at witchcraft, satan worship, the glorification of vampirism and shape shifting werewolves and zombies as though they are again all imaginary.  These things are not pretend, they are very real, they are part of the real world of the demonic and profane spiritual planes. The Bible does not pull any punches about the demonic. We are told by both Jesus and Paul and the other disciples that we need to cast out the demonic, to reject that which titivates the flesh and excites the carnal mind and instead embrace the light, and that which God himself has given us through Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour. The power and salvation offered by God through the Holy Spirit has no parallel. He has come to save us from this present darkness and not to encourage us to indulge our senses and our fleshly imaginations in pointless narratives about so called Christians dealing with fictional events. How is this uplifting our spirits when in actual fact none of this is real and comes from a human being NOT from God. Are Christian author’s telling us that their stories are in fact the same as or as good as revelation from the Holy Spirit? Are their stories on the same level as the canon of Scripture? No, they are not and they do not. There is no spiritual benefit in stories or myths or fairy tales or what in actual fact is falsehood. If it is not true then it is a lie right? If it is a lie then why are we filling our heads with it? We are in fact filling our empty souls because we feel the need to ‘chill out’. Why do we need to do that? Because we are beset with our own anxieties and sins. There is only one place to go to deal with that. The cross of Christ deals with sin and ‘in the multitude of my anxieties your comforts delight my soul’. (Psalm 94:19)

God wants to comfort us and His comforts are far more delightful to our souls than any amount of fiction, television, internet games or fantasy games. Let’s put these things aside and focus on the Saviour and Lover of our souls, Jesus, who will give us everything we will ever need for life.

as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue,

(2 Peter 1:3)

Orphans By Choice


This is a post from a blog we found last November.

What our brother in Christ shares is spot on and should sober us up and shake us out of our complacency.

Michael shares from his heart the things that the Holy Spirit shows him. We need to hear more of this sort of message as we are living in an age when men of God no longer preach from the heart of God but in so many cases from their rehashing of someone else’s messages which they have found online.

This message is reprinted word for word as it was found on Michaels blog.

I pray that it will challenge you to get on your knees and seek God for a fresh in filling of His Spirit and an awakening to go with that which will set you on fire for God.

Rise up church! The world needs us to be empowered by the Spirit, walking in the Spirit and sharing Christ to a dying world in order that they may come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ.

Jesus Christ is Lord. Amen.

Yours in Christ,



Wednesday, March 19, 2008


Orphans By Choice


Before I share what God has put on my heart for today, I wanted to take a few seconds and say thank you for all your encouraging words, prayers, and well wishes on my getting older. Thank you.

John 14:16-18, “And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him for He dwells with you and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you.”

John 14:26-27, “But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you. Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

History is repeating itself. As Christ wept over Jerusalem some two thousand years ago, and only a handful understood the true depth of His anguish, He weeps again, and once more those with understanding are few in number. A great majority has been swept up, or more aptly swept away into the land of half truth and outright deception, ever obedient, lemming like in their devotion to those who mercilessly shear them time and again, all the while unaware that they are orphans by choice. The vultures on the other hand, circle the dying hopes of the masses, ever ready to offer easy solutions for life’s most difficult of problems, all of which entail some sort of token, sacrificial giving, or vow of faith.

Through the constant barrage of doublespeak, scripture twisting, and inaccurate personal interpretation of the sovereign Word of God, we are living in a generation that has voluntarily chosen orphan hood, denying the promise and the One who made said promise, by both their action and inaction.

I realize full well that this is a sensitive subject, and denominational lines have been drawn, barriers erected, and borders defended due to this topic, but in the end the Word must have the final say in all matters of faith, otherwise we are as blind men leading the blind into the dark abyss of opinion rather than the solid foundation of truth.

As His time on earth was drawing to a finish, Christ gathered His disciples together, and endeavored to encourage them, bolster their hopes and strengthen their faith, knowing that His imminent departure would be a difficult transition for them. As He spoke to His followers, Christ made them a solemn promise, a promise that was extended to all who would endeavor to pick up their crosses, and follow in His footsteps. He promised that we would not be left at the mercy of the world, that we would not be defenseless against the enemy, that we would not be orphans, but that He would pray the Father to give us another Helper, one that would abide with us forever.

Although they had felt His presence, although Christ’s disciples knew this Spirit of truth for it dwelt with them, soon it would dwell in them, be in them. They would no longer experience the Holy Spirit from time to time, sporadically, but would have it in them perpetually, having access to all the gifts that it entailed.

It is tragic that the Helper who is reserved exclusively for the children of God, the person of the Holy Spirit, has become such a divisive topic among those who claim to be His. Rather than pursue this precious gift, we have done everything humanly possible to justify our unwillingness to submit and surrender to the will of God, that we might receive the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, that we might be true sons and daughters of God, and not orphans.

The hearts of men are troubled, and fear is spreading like a cancer. Uncertainty concerning tomorrow is now the issue of the day, and while the children of God should be the ones rising above the mire of fear, we are as embroiled in it as the rest of the world. These are the days in which the difference between the orphans in God’s house, and those who are truly His, is becoming more pronounced and evident. It is in this hour that the true children of God, are reminded of Christ’s words, and know that there is safety in the Father’s embrace, that He is our shelter in the midst of the storm. It is in this hour that our trust in God will be evidenced by the peace that overflows in our hearts, and by the comfort we find in Him.

It is not lack of love, or offered opportunity on God’s part that has produced so many spiritual orphans in this generation; it is this generation’s absolute rejection of truth, peace, and the Holy Spirit. They have chosen to be orphans because the Father’s rules, and His standards seemed too stifling, too limiting, too legalistic, too old fashioned, not taking into account that their willful departure from the Father’s home left them out in the cold, homeless, at the mercy of the elements, dependent on the kindness of strangers.

A bitter cup indeed to realize that strangers these days aren’t too kind, and the liberties of the flesh we so yearned for get very old, very quickly. We have squandered that which is precious, embraced that which is profane, and the consequences of our choices are only now beginning to come to light.

If today you are a true son or daughter of the heavenly Father, though the world mocks you, the progressive majority despises you, and even those you would call brothers and sisters reject you, rejoice and again I say rejoice, for your redemption is near.


With love in Christ,


Michael Boldea Jr.

Christian Narcissists


Not a Christian, but looks a lot like one.

Narcissism is not what some people might think.


It is not self-absorption or even extreme selfishness.  It is a pathological lack of conscience, empathy, compassion, humility and reasonable self-image which revolves around actual talents and character.  It is about lying every time  you open y our mouth.  It is about thinking about your life as a fantasy of what you want to be and then believing it to be true. It is also about expecting others to believe it even when there is no empirical evidence to support that belief. Incredibly,  Narcissists seem to manage to convince others that what they think about themselves is true. They seem to be able to project an image and convey such confidence in that image that others are manipulated into believing it to be real.

Narcissists do not cope well with denial of their fantasies about themselves. Unfortunately, although they are toxic emotional vampires, they can be very charming and persuasive and make you believe that you are their very bestest best friend at first meeting.  They love bomb strangers and at the same time treat their old friends and relatives like dirt. Then they want to know why you are acting strangely around them. It’s because you are catching onto their behaviour and trying to fit it into the jigsaw puzzle of their lives.  The bits don’t match.  They won’t, they belong to a number of different jigsaws.  The one the narcissist is working on is different to the one  you see. They mess with your head and make you believe you are the one with the problem. So lacking in normal morality and working conscience are they that they can carry on like this with a huge smile on their face and be completely free of any shame, guilt or concern about their actions and their consequences. They are like six-year-olds playing a game and they get just as hostile when you don’t want to play any more.

Narcissists can turn from the cute six-year-old to the homicidal maniac at the drop of a hat.  You might think this is an overstatement, but there have been narcissists of my acquaintance who would easily kill somebody if they thought they would not be caught or that it wouldn’t harm their image.  Fortunately they usually stop short of this and just murder your soul instead.  Murdering somebody’s reputation or character is also a good substitute.  That takes time and effort however, so you would have to have upset the narcissist a lot for them to get to that point. On the other hand if the narcissist has a willing pack of servants, often called flying monkeys on the internet, especially family members, then they can get them to do the dirty work for them.

Narcissists have been known to destroy marriages, families, people’s sanity and their careers and to cause nervous breakdowns and suicide, but not so as anybody would notice.  They attack by stealth and its a campaign of attrition. Only the victim knows anything is wrong at first and afterwards, they still blame the victim when it is clearly the narcissist staring at you with the knife in their hand.

Some psychologists have made the suggestion that Narcissists become what they are because they were abused as children and have never grown up and have no real choice as to how they behave.  But the evidence belies this statement.  Anyone with any intimate knowledge of narcissism, especially if they have been raised by it, grown up with it or married it will know that narcissists are not just abused children.  They are extremely functional adults who know the difference between good and evil, and switch between the two depending on who they are talking to and whether or not there are witnesses.  I have seen children do this as well.  And these children were not abused, they were simply choosing to do the wrong thing to suit themselves, and then to cover it up by charming the person in authority, usually the parent.

I am not a psychologist, although I am an avid student of human behaviour. Having grown up around narcissism, and spent 15 years in a religious cult you have no choice but to deal with it.  It is a case of adapt or die.  You have to learn who your enemy is.  And this brings me to the point of my title.  Christian narcissists are liars.  They are first of all not Christians, because it is not possible to continually sin without conscience and be genuinely filled with the Holy Spirit.  Therefore if a narcissist claims to be saved and moreover is a member of local congregation I treat them with the utmost caution.  So called Christian Narcissists can run churches, preach from pulpits or sit on boards.  They can be married to the pastor or serve on the missionary committee, you will know when you have struck one because they continually leave you stunned with their rudeness and contempt. Should you try and deal with this person they will look and sound as though they are truly interested in helping you come to terms with your stupidity.  They are simply not able to recognise their own sin, and will wipe it off onto you because you are blaming them, the blameless, spotless lamb of God.  I heard an abusive former elder of the religious cult I went to actually say this.  He spent decades preaching a false gospel, abusing and bullying everyone he met yet when they finally kicked him out, and we went to him to ask him to be accountable for his actions, his whole demeanour was one of total innocence. Who me?  How could I be at fault?  Now scripture tells us that nobody is without sin and if anyone says he has no sin he is a liar.  This man had lied to us for a couple of decades and after having been kicked out of his own cult, he was still lying.   However, I once saw a picture of him up on his facebook page.  He had that typical narcissist smug grin.  It is the grin of a naughty child who is making you their co-conspirator.  It’s the ‘we all know I am naughty but you know you love me’ look that very small children are apt to get away with.  Its ugly and its an outright offence against the body of Christ and God himself.

Family Privilege

weird family

Parents who provide consistent affection, emotional and physical safety, boundaries, limits and expectations, opportunities, role modeling, belonging, safety, unconditional love and spiritual values foster the healthy development of Family Privilege. However, in spite of our rhetoric about the family values and the value of families, Family Privilege is largely invisible to children and young people who benefit from it. Like the wind, which is unseen but powerful, Family Privilege has a profound impact.

John Seita “Reclaiming Family Privilege” (


There seems to be an idea that regularly surfaces that people who are estranged need to ‘get over their past’, make or receive amends for things that have happened and get on with it. Sometimes people who have elected to estrange are perceived as being “ruthless, unkind, damaged, lacking in compassion, unwilling to forgive and forget –  unwilling to go the distance”.

What is regularly overlooked is that for some people who are estranged the problems didn’t necessarily start in childhood nor did they end there. Adults may be subject to ongoing toxic stress and trauma and just because they are older it doesn’t mean that it hurts any less.

Fiona McColl – (


10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
    the Lord will receive me.
11 Teach me your way, Lord;
    lead me in a straight path
    because of my oppressors.
12 Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes,
    for false witnesses rise up against me,
    spouting malicious accusations.

13 I remain confident of this:
    I will see the goodness of the Lord
    in the land of the living.

(Psalm 27)

We have been reading and researching on and around this topic for the last dozen years but it wasn’t until I read John Seita’s quote above about family privilege on Fiona McColl’s  blog that I realised how profound this concept is. Those  who have healthy, or at the very least non-abusive, families do not even realise what privileges they have in the community.  And that is as it should be.  It is only abused children who sense deeply that they have been bereft of something important.  Those children who have no sense of belonging, although they may not have been able to identify it, will be able to recognise that belonging in healthy family dynamics around them.  It will resonate with them at a profound level and they will carry that pain with them to adulthood and beyond.

This is actually a good thing.  For when those children grow up, this ‘knowing’ will be the catalyst and motivator to seek out reasons for and answers to their deep seated distress.  If we don’t recognise what constitutes normal healthy and good family dynamics we will never understand why the dysfunctional and abusive doesn’t quite sit right. We know at a visceral level but until we know with our hearts and minds we will continue to pine for what is rightfully ours.

Unfortunately, it often does take many decades before adult children of dysfunctional families discover what is wrong.  They will have always thought it was them, but usually something will trigger an awakening in which they suddenly see themselves in a different light. Sometimes it will be through therapy, sometimes through their own research, sometimes it will take a traumatic event but they will start to see that their issues have a much broader landscape than they ever dared to imagine.

In the same way that family privilege is camouflaged to the members of that family, familial abuse is considered normal and the deep down shame and guilt that members carry is often mitigated by mentally and verbally excusing the abuse in some way both to yourself and outsiders. Should anyone else try and point it out, the members of the abusive family will defend their family dysfunction to the bitter end. “Nobody is perfect”, and “but at least they provided food on the table and a roof over our heads” or “they weren’t that bad” are some of the extenuations we tell ourselves. Yet these statements in themselves are evidence that there is a problem.  As we stated above, children in privileged families don’t need to excuse anything.

As Fiona McColl points out, for many who come from abusive families of origin there is an ongoing problem; not just in the way they cope with the abuse from their families but because they continue the pattern and cycle of abuse with significant others (spouses, partners, friends). Until this recognition hits and we seek out knowledge, support and help we will continue to see these isues as either insignficant or somehow our own fault.

In our case, it wasn’t until we left an abusive cult ‘church’ which we had attended for 15 years that we realised that the problems we faced in the cult were exactly the same problems we had faced growing up. It wasn’t until we woke up to what was going on in the cult and asked ourselves how it was that we allowed all of this to happen and thought it was normal that we looked at our lives as a whole and saw the patterns.

To those who ask, and it is a common question, how normal intelligent and otherwise sensible people manage to get themselves involved in cults I have this to say.  Read John Seir’s quote above.  It is hardly revelatory, these aspects of family have been recognised for centuries.  We all know why family is a good thing, they have your back, they are a safe place to fall, a place where you belong.  If you don’t have a safe place in  your family then where do you have it?  We have it in God.  Many will go to God for support, love, encouragement, a safe place.  And scripture is clear, ‘when my mother and father forsake me, the Lord will take me up’ (Psalm 27 v 10).  So we go to church.  A good church functions like a good family.  It provides everything that a fallen, broken family doesn’t.  And of course a privileged christian family in a privileged christian spiritual family or church is quite something to behold.  Here, and nowhere else, do we see the way family is supposed to exist, living in both the joy of physical closeness and oneness with God.

A cult is what happens when we see a ‘form of godliness’ (2Timothy 3) without the power.  A cult is a mile wide and an inch deep.  Their love is ‘love bombing’ it is not real.  Their closeness is based on fear and trauma bonding not freedom and their sense of belonging is based on secrecy and punishment not genuine acceptance.  For those who have come from abusive and dysfunctional families looking for the genuine article it is very easy to be deceived. They have had no experience of the real thing so they tend to move towards what they think is normal.  However their ‘normal’ is in fact dysfunction.

A cult doesn’t look like a cult on the outside, and its members, because they reside in a dysfunctional spiritual family, don’t recognise the abuse from the inside either. Nobody finds out about a cult until somebody who left talks about what went on.  In order to do that they fist have to wake up.  When they do they begin to hold the abusers accountable.  Then the fireworks begin.  It is the wilful, narcissistic malice of the cult leaders and their cronies which both drives and contains the group.  It isn’t until you fall foul of these wolves that you realise the kind of group you were in.  This is a place of deliberate deception.  If you wonder how anyone could stay in a cult, or join one, recognise if nothing else that deliberate deception is demonic in origin and keeps a strong hold on its victims.  Those who step into these groups do not choose to join cults, they desire to be accepted, loved and embraced.  They are looking for a place of belonging, and God’s family does provide that.  It is only when sin, the wickedness of the false shepherds and false Christians, gets a hold on a group that you end up with a cult.

It has been over ten years since we left the cult and embarked upon a life changing journey to examine ourselves, our families of origin, our own family dynamics, our marriage dynamics and our personal issues.  We have made every effort to align ourselves with not only God’s word on all of these things but to apportion responsibility where it actually resides and not heap everything upon our own heads. Not even God blames anyone for something they did not do. Amazingly though, Jesus took other peple’s sins against us to the cross as well as our own sins. He died for those abuses that others perpetrated against us. It is because of this that we can understand that becoming part of God’s household where He himself is the Father is taking us into totally unexplored territory. Our family privilege comes from being part of the body of Christ.  It is both an inherited privilege and one we learn through faith.  We don’t immediately recover from what we experienced in our biological family when we become born again, but knowing what happened and seeing the truth of how we were damaged can give us a new appreciation for the fatherhood of God and the ways of His household.

One of the biggest problems with Christians coming into the Kingdom of God and learning about how God’s family operates is that more often than we would like, the ones trying to teach us about Kingdom principles have themselves come from dysfunctional backgrounds and have not done the work needed to free themselves from their own unhealthy ways of relating. For example, when I was 19 and suffering from panic attacks I looked to other Christians to help me deal with it.  I had become a Christian myself at 13, but living in a household antagonistic to faith of any kind and not having any other support from Christians outside my family, I ended up backslidden and trying desperately to get my family’s approval thereby causing myself much grief through compromise.

So I went and talked to a Pastor’s wife I had met briefly through a friend of mine.  She herself had come from an abusive dysfunctional family and though I didn’t know it her own family were not coping either. Pastor’s kids I have known have generally ended up pretty screwed up. It seems leaders’ families get the brunt not only of the general family dysfunction but the dysfunction brought on by religious duties overriding family needs.  So, here was I, a total emotional mess due to my upbringing trying to get some much needed spiritual and familial support from a spiritual ‘mother’ but I ended up inheriting not only my own biological family issues but many of hers.

Not only was the pastor’s family something of a mess but they were not able to recognise that my own familial issues were similar to theirs.  We focused on things, good things, like baptism in water and in the Spirit and bible studies, getting involved in church and so on.  While these things helped me progress somewhat in my walk with God, they did not address the core issues which were causing my panic attacks.  It wasn’t until I was in my 40s that I realised my panic attacks were a result of my upbringing and could not therefore be fixed with just prayer or bible study or memorising scriptures or going to church.  There needed to be a painful awakening to what was broken in my family and therefore in myself.  For however much parents want to blame their children for their children’s issues, there is no getting away from the fact that these children are the way they are because they were raised by their dysfunctional parents.

Any child, regardless of their innate personality is going to be affected by their family environment in profound and far-reaching ways.  These issues are generational to the extent that they remain unrecognised or unresolved but they can be changed and blocked from going any further.  This has been the intent in our family.  By recognising what had gone before it is much easier to address what is happening now, be accountable for how you have raised your family and make an effort to talk to your children, repent, ask for forgiveness and discuss what is happening.

Then you will be able to move from briar to myrtle, from the curse of sin to the blessings of God.  This alone is the privilege of the inheritance of the children of Abraham.

Anita Brady